Control What You Can. Release What You Can’t. How Resilient People Master Change
Control What You Can. Release What You Can’t. How Resilient People Master Change 🐯 How Resilient People Master Change 🔥 When Everything Falls Apart, This Is What Remains. When I was 17 years old, life sucker-punched me in a way I never saw coming. Homeless. Broke. No safety net. No roadmap. Just a kid trying to figure out how to survive after everything I thought I could control vanished overnight. At that age, I thought control meant certainty. Stability. Predictability. But life? Life doesn’t play by those rules. Parents die – families disintegrate, and sometimes, children are left to survive. And neither does growth. 🚫 What I learned in those early days — sleeping in a snowbank in Central Park NYC, hustling for meals — wasn’t just about surviving hardship. It was about learning what power actually looks like. Because here’s the brutal truth nobody tells you about change: “Most people don’t struggle with change because they’re weak. They struggle because no one ever taught them what they actually control.” And that changes everything. ________________________________________ Why Change Feels So Hard Psychologists call it locus of control. It’s a fancy way of saying: where does your sense of power live? There are two types: • Internal locus of control → "I believe I can shape my life." • External locus of control → "Life happens to me, and I just react." Neither is wrong all the time. But people who thrive in adversity? They’ve learned to dial their focus in on the right things at the right time. When life changes without your permission (and it will), here’s what usually happens: 1. You resist. 2. You over-control what you can’t (other people, outcomes, the past). 3. You under-control what you could (habits, reactions, mindset). 4. You stay stuck — angry, bitter, exhausted. Sound familiar? ________________________________________ The Tiger Resilience Control Compass 📍 Here’s how we flip that script inside Tiger Resilience. 🐅 We call it The Control Compass — because knowing where to place your energy is a life skill nobody teaches but everybody needs.
